Anonymous asked: What would you do if you learned that you were another person's object of lust? For a background, i know this person because we came from the same school, but he's not actually a friend like a very close friend. I know for sure that the way I dress protects me to be an object of lust -- I'm a Christian by the way (and i'm really cautious with what I wear). So, I would just want to know, if you have there any advice, on how I will be able to respond to this kind of situation? Thanks. God bless.
There are things within our sphere of control, and things that are out of it. The way we dress is what we can control, and like you stated you have taken extra care to dress modestly. We however cannot control they way the guy thinks about you. Some guys are capable of “undressing you with their eyes” even if you’re whole body is covered.
Since we cannot control the way the guy thinks about you, you can probably distance yourself from him so that he will see you less and remember you less. Also pray for protection on your part, and for him to stop thinking of you in the wrong way. Also I would suggest you be careful because if his thought life pushes him to actualize his actions it could be very scary and dangerous. Avoid being alone, try to be with your friends so you always have company.
IF the guy is a Christian, then maybe ask another guy who can talk to him about it. Or if he has a spiritual leader who can talk to him and keep him accountable as to help him overcome his struggle.